I mean, all of this is what dating is all about though. You aren't always going to immediately click. The whole idea of doing or talking about something you both enjoy is to help both sides feel more comfortable and relaxed enough to test your chemistry more naturally. So starting off by establishing common interests minimizes your risk of disappointment.
I hate to say it, but dating is... way more complicated than that. No matter how well prepared you are there's always a risk that you can't account for. You're talking about opening yourself up to another person and letting yourself be vulnerable long enough to hopefully form a connection. If you want that connection you've got to take some chances.
I suggested speed dating because it would be the fastest way to meet people with the least amount of risk involved, as it happens. It's not for everyone, but I wouldn't write it off too hastily. You say you don't usually click with people that fast, but you never know.
Ultimately you should do whatever makes you feel both safe and comfortable.
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I hate to say it, but dating is... way more complicated than that. No matter how well prepared you are there's always a risk that you can't account for. You're talking about opening yourself up to another person and letting yourself be vulnerable long enough to hopefully form a connection. If you want that connection you've got to take some chances.
I suggested speed dating because it would be the fastest way to meet people with the least amount of risk involved, as it happens. It's not for everyone, but I wouldn't write it off too hastily. You say you don't usually click with people that fast, but you never know.
Ultimately you should do whatever makes you feel both safe and comfortable.
You can always go back to the wingman idea?