un: abnormalitylover, voice

[abnormalizes]

How do I get my friends to not be upset when I talk about life at home?

It's not like they can do anything about it or like bad things are happening here now, so I mostly just feel bad for making them feel bad and making the conversation really awkward.

Is this a normal part of having friends? It sucks and I would like to opt out, please.

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[abnormalizes]

I don't know how to phrase it nicely, though. I don't want to be mean to them.

[silentjade]

"I am grateful that you feel so much concern about my past, however, it cannot be changed, and I would like to focus on the life I have here. So while I am fortunate to have you to share my history of hardships with, let us look toward the future together."

Or something similar in your own words. [ Lan Wangji has a lot of practice in being polite, but straight-forward. ]

[abnormalizes]

'Grateful... focus on the life I have here... look forward to the future...' Got it. That should be pretty convincing for all but the most stubborn ones, I think.

[silentjade]

Hm, even with the stubborn ones, I feel they will still do their best to give you a better life here.

If you need any further help, please do not hesitate to contact me.

[abnormalizes]

Thank you, that's very kind of you. Oh - I'm Evangeline, nice to meet you.

[silentjade]

I am Lan Wangji. It is nice to meet you, as well.

Do you have any other concerns that I may help you with at this time?

[abnormalizes]

...How worrying is it generally when someone panics on being asked out?

[silentjade]

I imagine it depends on the person and situation.

When the man I love confessed his feelings to me, he rambled and said whatever came to his mind at the moment. I did not quite know what to do with it at first, so I froze. At the time, he was being held hostage.

[abnormalizes]

Geeze. That's... I get why you would if you thought you might be about to die, but that's not a great time for a love confession?