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[nilhilistic]

Do you think you deserve to be loved?

What makes you worthy of it?

Comments

[badsunrising]

Well, it only matters if you're honest about it. Your question is about the self.

What do you consider balanced?

[nilhilistic]

Knowing when to handle compassion and when to handle power.

sorry for the delay, lost my mojo

[badsunrising]

Not a bad definition.

Part of handling compassion is accepting another's feelings for you. Even if you feel unworthy, you have to allow them their feelings.

Pushing others away only causes more problems. It rarely changes the way they feel. It only causes them further suffering.

no worries!

[nilhilistic]

How can it cause more suffering?

[badsunrising]

People can do stupid things when they're upset. Even more when they're upset over someone else.

[ Stupid self-sacrificial things. ]

[nilhilistic]

[ wow!! ]

I suppose that is true.

[badsunrising]

Which is why you just have to let people feel the way they feel sometimes. If they think you're worthy of love, who are you to tell them otherwise?

[nilhilistic]

As the recipient, do I not have a say?

[badsunrising]

You don't have to return the feeling. But you can't tell them not to feel it.

[nilhilistic]

Hm. Perhaps.

[badsunrising]

Some people can be very stubborn about their feelings. Nothing you do will convince them otherwise.

[nilhilistic]

Are you not the same?

[badsunrising]

[ INTERNAL SCREE ]

What do you mean by that?

[nilhilistic]

You strike me as much of the same. Am I wrong?

[badsunrising]

I can adapt.

[ Lies. Horrible lies. ]

[nilhilistic]

Is that so?

[badsunrising]

I haven't had much choice in the matter. As I said, I am used to dealing with some stubborn individuals.

[nilhilistic]

And how do you deal with them?

[badsunrising]

[ Let them steamroll him until the feelings get to be too much and he snaps and tries to murder them all. :x You know, normal things. ]

Compromise. And a lot of talking.

[nilhilistic]

[ wow so familiar. ]

Compromise?

[badsunrising]

I'm sure you know what a compromise is. You each concede something to the other. They agree to do something, you agree to do something.

[nilhilistic]

How often do you concede?

[badsunrising]

It depends on the concession and how much it's required to establish harmony. It can be subjective and situational.

[ Read: how much he cares about making someone happy. ]

[nilhilistic]

That means "when I feel like it".

[badsunrising]

Not entirely. But there is an emotional component to it.