text: anonymous (cw/tw: depression, self-loathing for the whole post)

[unknowntodeath]

[Just a very normal question anyone would ask in the network here, nothing strange to see here.]


How do you get past hating yourself?



[Asking for a friend.]

Comments

[at_heart]

[ A much shorter pause. ]

Didn't say or mean to say it was a magic bullet
Just that it's even harder without

[sangreine]

I get it.

I just think about how tempting it is to blame yourself when things go bad, and I don't want anyone else thinking for a second that it was some failing of theirs that they got treated like that. That if they just knew better, or thought more of themselves, it wouldn't have happened.

[at_heart]

It's never anyone's fault if other people treat them like crap

[ Full-agree on that. After a beat, he adds, ]

Really was just trying to explain where I think the saying came from

[ And, honestly, he likes that you're this protective of other people. If only you could extend some of that to yourself, but, you know, hypocrites. ]

[sangreine]

I know.

Have I mentioned how much I appreciate you not pushing me too hard? I can imagine I'm frustrating to listen to most of the time. [ She's trying even if it doesn't always seem that way. ]

[at_heart]

[ Smallest, smallest pause. Text conversations where he can't like, give you a shoulder-squeeze are the worst actually. ]

Can't speak for anyone but myself
But you're not
You're fine

[ This kind of thing is a work in progress. And all progress is good progress. ]

[sangreine]

Oh well then

Have I mentioned that you're wonderful and ilu [ She won't spell it out to spare his delicate sensibilities~ ]

[at_heart]

[ Ugh, honestly. ]

Why do you guys say this stuff when you can't even see my face

[sangreine]

I like to imagine your face.

Also, it's true.

[at_heart]

[ UGH ]

Sounds like my participation in this conversation is fully optional

[sangreine]

Not at all. You cheered me up. You always do. [ This time she's not actually aiming for fluster ]

[at_heart]

[ Just succeeding. There's a loooong pause. ]

Whatever I can do

[sangreine]

I'll make a list ♥