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text: anonymous (cw/tw: depression, self-loathing for the whole post)
[Just a very normal question anyone would ask in the network here, nothing strange to see here.]
How do you get past hating yourself?
[Asking for a friend.]
How do you get past hating yourself?
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anonymous;
I think that would depend on why you hate yourself, wouldn't it?
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That's a slightly more difficult thing to asnwer without revealing too much about myself.
But if I were to say one thing it's because of the choices I made a long time ago.
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un: kantera
'Tis a long process, but I can vouch for its effectiveness.
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un: gaine
What helped me most is finding people who refuse to be pushed away no matter how I try. It's not foolproof, and there are a lot of times I take steps backward, but if they see something in me that's worthwhile, even though they've seen the worst of it, maybe there's more to me than the bad parts.
Also, don't believe that line about 'you have to love yourself to love others'. It's bullshit.
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I guess I'm just worried that might not be enough. That my hate is too strong to bend the words of others.
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un:🐺
I don't actually think that's what that means
The saying about loving yourself I mean
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un: Hermes
That hit harder than expected. Junpei wondered who this anon is-- ]
If you figure it out can you tell me?
[ baaad attempt at a joke-- ]
but like, seriously? I guess it's... just realising you did the best you could when you were doin' stuff.
Like you were trying your best, even if it wasn't great
and there are people who'll support you anyway even if you do dont like yourself.
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un: Hermes
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un: Hermes
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text; un: rider
[ he'll not go anon himself; continuing to hide behind his class name offline too feels like enough hypocrisy to go along with talking about self-acceptance. ]
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So is this the same Rider he spoke with that got him into his thinking mood or are there several riders around. He doesn't know the Rider well enough to know if she would say that.
Either way, it makes him think of a reply for far longer than others.]
If only it was that simple. What I would need to accept is the part of me that got me into this mess.
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un: cecilias
Doing a bit too much late-night thinking?
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un: kalim
And this is just my opinion, but I think if you're trying to search for reasons to like yourself, you've already got ones that you're overlooking.
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I find that hard to believe. Who I am now is just an empty shell of the person I used to be. Yet the person I used to be is someone I would rather destroy.
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un: tamedwolf
[ Accepting yourself could be the hardest thing sometimes and he'd been through enough to finally not feel those horrible twinges with almost every move he made. ]
Also, try to find people that see you in a way you don't see yourself. The only voices that'll be louder than the one you use for yourself are the ones from people you trust, you know?
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There is a voice far louder than my thoughts that I want to listen to. It's the reason I'm even asking these questions.
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Let's start with why you want to
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anonymous;
It has to start with atonement.
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un: bordeaux
Even when the world has moved on and you're long forgotten by all but yourself, you'll still think of the things about yourself that aren't perfect. It is less about moving on from that and more about learning to function alongside it, because no matter how you dislike yourself, you are still here, and can remain here long after you think you can't.
So pick your chin up! There are worse people than you. Better ones too, but also worse.
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As for remaining, unfortunately I'm doomed with forever.
text; un: philosophy
What is it that you seek to excise? What manner of growth must be removed from your body?
What is it that you hate most?
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I tossed those away a long time ago, but nothing changed, of course.
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text; un:jaeger
I think that depends on what you hate yourself for.
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anonymous
Work to become that which you want to be. You might not stop hating aspects of yourself, but it can be a stepping stone or a means of measuring how far you've come.
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un: tophats
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anonymous
Honestly? By getting other people to like and love you and learning to love yourself through their eyes. Fake it til you make it, basically.
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un; user_143
that's quite a rough thing to deal with, isn't it
i don't think there's an easy solution. do you want someone to talk to?
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But no, thank you. I think talking about it might just make it worse.
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un: anonymous
Sometimes you don't.
Sometimes you just...live with this person you hate. Because you can't get rid of yourself.
You keep living. That's the most you can do. And maybe someday it'll go away. Maybe it won't. Who knows.
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But you may be right. Maybe there is no cure and just trying to ignore it the best I can.
Text; anon
But I've always fallen short and
I don't know how to shake that feeling.
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But whoever this is... Archer has little sympathy.]
You can't save everyone. Once you realize that, your life will be a lot easier. Give up on your dreams of helping as many people now before you get even more hurt.
Otherwise, you'll just end up empty and miserable. Giving your all for something you cannot achieve. Something that will never be appreciated either.
You'll die without ever feeling happy yourself.
un: Hermes
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Text; anon
I wouldn't say I hate myself, but I know I'm a disappointment. I'm not clever. There's a lot about myself I know is ugly and disappointing.
I guess I have confidence in my ability in combat. That's the one strength I have, so...I'm focusing on that. I don't know if that helps.
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[But his strengths are the same as Shirou's circling him back to--]
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