ellipsanet | text: anonymous (cw/tw: depression, self-loathing for the whole post)

[ Okay, this is definitely a topic that she doesn't want her name attached to, so she's also going the anonymous route. ]

I think that would depend on why you hate yourself, wouldn't it?

Find someone who hates themselves as much as you hate yourself. Become deeply fond of them, so that every time they curse things in themselves that they would forgive in others, every time they blame themselves for things outside of their control, it causes you great pain. Recognize your own behavior and way of thinking in them and the ways it hurts the people who love you, and begin to catch yourself at it. 'Tis a long process, but I can vouch for its effectiveness.

I wish I had a good answer, believe me.

What helped me most is finding people who refuse to be pushed away no matter how I try. It's not foolproof, and there are a lot of times I take steps backward, but if they see something in me that's worthwhile, even though they've seen the worst of it, maybe there's more to me than the bad parts.

Also, don't believe that line about 'you have to love yourself to love others'. It's bullshit.

[ Oh.

That hit harder than expected. Junpei wondered who this anon is-- ]

If you figure it out can you tell me?

[ baaad attempt at a joke-- ]

but like, seriously? I guess it's... just realising you did the best you could when you were doin' stuff.

Like you were trying your best, even if it wasn't great

and there are people who'll support you anyway even if you do dont like yourself.

Acceptance. You are who you are, so why fight nature?

[ he'll not go anon himself; continuing to hide behind his class name offline too feels like enough hypocrisy to go along with talking about self-acceptance. ]

[ Wow. Buddy? ]

Doing a bit too much late-night thinking?

I can't say that I've ever experienced it before, but I think you have to consider the reason why you feel that way. Is it because you're comparing yourself to those around you? Or because you made a mistake that you can't forgive yourself for? Either way, I think it's likely that you're focusing on your negative qualities when you should be considering all the good things about you.

And this is just my opinion, but I think if you're trying to search for reasons to like yourself, you've already got ones that you're overlooking.

Maybe part of it is trying to become someone you don't hate? I don't think it's ever too late to change. Whether it's a part of yourself or something you did, you can always try to be better.

[ Accepting yourself could be the hardest thing sometimes and he'd been through enough to finally not feel those horrible twinges with almost every move he made. ]

Also, try to find people that see you in a way you don't see yourself. The only voices that'll be louder than the one you use for yourself are the ones from people you trust, you know?

[ bold of you to assume anyone here has gotten past it ]

Let's start with why you want to

[ ...not for himself, but. Suzaku will also fiddle with the settings for a while until it's anonymous. ]

It has to start with atonement.

I always assumed that you didn't! We all hate ourselves, it's pretty much human nature, isn't it? We see all of the little imperfections in every movement, every breath, everything we create, everything we are, because we live in our skin all of the time.

Even when the world has moved on and you're long forgotten by all but yourself, you'll still think of the things about yourself that aren't perfect. It is less about moving on from that and more about learning to function alongside it, because no matter how you dislike yourself, you are still here, and can remain here long after you think you can't.

So pick your chin up! There are worse people than you. Better ones too, but also worse.

Many are simply incapable. And many others do so without understanding the choice they have made.
What is it that you seek to excise? What manner of growth must be removed from your body?

What is it that you hate most?

[ He has no idea how to do anonymous stuff and probably wouldn't anyway. ]

I think that depends on what you hate yourself for.

[ A relatable topic indeed. ]

Work to become that which you want to be. You might not stop hating aspects of yourself, but it can be a stepping stone or a means of measuring how far you've come.

It's different for every person but forgiveness tends to be a good place to start off with.

Honestly? By getting other people to like and love you and learning to love yourself through their eyes. Fake it til you make it, basically.

ah that's quite a rough thing to deal with, isn't it i don't think there's an easy solution. do you want someone to talk to?

[....It's been a bit, but a post like this out of the blue almost makes him want to ask if it's Kaneki.]

Sometimes you don't.

Sometimes you just...live with this person you hate. Because you can't get rid of yourself.

You keep living. That's the most you can do. And maybe someday it'll go away. Maybe it won't. Who knows.

I don't know. I try to help people as much as I can, I've tried to save people.

But I've always fallen short and
I don't know how to shake that feeling.

[Where to start...]

I wouldn't say I hate myself, but I know I'm a disappointment. I'm not clever. There's a lot about myself I know is ugly and disappointing.

I guess I have confidence in my ability in combat. That's the one strength I have, so...I'm focusing on that. I don't know if that helps.

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