abnormalizes: negative (it's such a freaky scene)
Evangeline ([personal profile] abnormalizes) wrote in [community profile] ellipsanet2023-07-24 09:24 pm

un: abnormalitylover, voice

How do I get my friends to not be upset when I talk about life at home?

It's not like they can do anything about it or like bad things are happening here now, so I mostly just feel bad for making them feel bad and making the conversation really awkward.

Is this a normal part of having friends? It sucks and I would like to opt out, please.
kingside: (you're doing it wrong)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 09:37 pm (UTC)(link)
I didn't say it was likely to happen.
kingside: (Fill in the blanks. If you can.)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 09:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Regrettably, I'm not a therapist.

[And he has... you know, sort of a questionable history when it comes to discussing anyone's trauma, to say nothing of his own, so. Yep.]
kingside: (phone profile)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 10:00 pm (UTC)(link)
[Sigh.]

More specifically, I regret that I can only offer you a willing ear and nothing in the way of treatment. Advice, perhaps, but nothing informed by specific psychological theories or practices. It may very well do more harm than good.
kingside: (just checking)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Then I suppose I'll continue to offer that.
kingside: (that's not what you said last night)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
[SIGHS TO HIMSELF OFFSCREEN.]

Just don't tell anyone. I have a reputation to maintain.
kingside: (beautiful emperor)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-01 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
[Gods that is far too close to home.]

I appreciate it.
kingside: (lying smiles)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-06 11:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I wouldn't go so far. Speaking to you is oddly refreshing.
kingside: (DRAMATIC EXPLANATION)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-07 12:00 am (UTC)(link)
Your perspective is drastically different from most people's, so yes, I'd say "refreshing" is appropriate. Also bizarre and unsettling, but not in a bad way most of the time.
kingside: (you're doing it wrong)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-07 12:04 am (UTC)(link)
[The strangest things fluster her, really, which is sort of par for the course, so. Sure, Evangeline.]

I can call you "weird" if that would be easier to stomach.
kingside: (cold nobility)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-07 12:15 am (UTC)(link)
[This response is somewhat more bewildering, but okay.]

I'll remember it.
kingside: (is that what you meant?)

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-07 12:30 am (UTC)(link)
You're welcome, and I appreciate. Should I encounter one who's deserving, you'll be the first to know.
kingside: (a gentle world)

ye

[personal profile] kingside 2023-08-07 03:58 am (UTC)(link)
The same to you, Evangeline, should you need someone to talk to.